She Is Not To Be Feared, Our Deep Dive into Black Moon Lilith

You have seen her name on the cosmic forecast. You have likely heard her mentioned in hushed, dramatic tones, Lilith.

This November, our astrological chart is lit up by her presence. The Sun conjuncts Black Moon Lilith on November 18th, and Mercury conjuncts her on November 21st. Whenever a planet touches this point, the energy is potent, raw, and profoundly revealing.

But who, or what, is Lilith? And why does she command such an intense reputation?

If you have ever been made to feel that you are “too much”, too loud, too emotional, too wild, too sexual, too independent then you have already met your Lilith.

She is not a demon to be feared. She is the exiled, untamed, and sovereign part of your own soul. And this month, she is stepping directly into the light.

Who (or What) is Black Moon Lilith?

First, let us be clear on what she is. Lilith is not a planet. She is a mathematical point in space. She is the lunar apogee, the farthest point in the Moon’s elliptical orbit around the Earth.

The metaphor here is profound. The Moon rules our emotions, our comfort, our mother, and our sense of belonging. Lilith is the point farthest away from that comfort. She is the Moon’s wild, distant shadow. She is the part of our psyche that is untamed, unmothered, and utterly sovereign.

Her power is rooted in her mythology. In ancient folklore, Lilith was the first wife of Adam. She was created from the same earth, at the same time, as his equal. The conflict arose when he demanded she be subservient. Lilith, knowing her own divine equality, refused. She would not compromise her sovereignty.

Rather than submit, she spoke the sacred name of God and flew from the Garden, exiling herself to the shores of the Red Sea. She was then demonised, cast as a creature of the night, a cautionary tale for any woman who refused to be “good”.

What Lilith Represents in Your Chart

In astrology, Black Moon Lilith represents all of this. She is where you find your raw, primal instincts, your untamed power, and your most sacred “no”.

Lilith points to:

1. Your Primal Sovereignty: Your rawest instincts, your connection to nature, your unfiltered creativity, and your innate, sacred sexuality.
2. Where You Are Exiled: The part of your life (shown by her house) or the way you express yourself (shown by her sign) where you feel misunderstood, shamed, or rejected. It is where you have repressed parts of yourself to fit in.
3. Your Sacred Rage: Lilith is where you will not compromise your truth. It is the source of your divine, righteous anger when your equality or sovereignty is denied.
4. Your Path to Liberation: Working with your Lilith is the alchemical process of reclaiming these exiled parts. It is where you learn to be whole, not just “good”.

Lilith is the part of you that will no longer be “good” at the expense of being whole.

Lilith in November 2025 & The Great Illumination

This month, Lilith is in Scorpio, the sign of shadows, secrets, power, and transformation. This is her natural home. She is comfortable in the dark. And this month, we are being forced to look at her.

November 18th Sun conjunct Lilith

The Sun is our consciousness, our light, our ego. When it conjuncts Lilith, it shines a massive, unavoidable spotlight directly into our deepest, most hidden corners. The “unseen self steps into light”. This is a day of raw, authentic self revelation. You may suddenly see a pattern, an old shame, or a hidden power in yourself with blinding clarity. Your mission: Own your edges. Do not look away.

November 21st Mercury conjunct Lilith

Mercury is our mind, our voice, our communication. When it conjuncts Lilith, it gives a voice to the shadow. This is when the “unspoken truths rise”. A secret may be revealed. You might finally say the thing you have been too afraid to say for years. This is a day for radical honesty, first with yourself, and then with others. Your mission: Listen to the truth that is rising.

How to Work With Your Lilith Energy

Lilith’s energy is intense, but it is not negative. It is liberating. It is the source of your deepest, most authentic power. Here is how to harness it.

1. Acknowledge, Do Not Repress: When you feel that primal urge of rage, grief, or a powerful “no”, do not repress it. Acknowledge it. Ask it: “What are you trying to tell me? What boundary has been crossed?”
2. Honour Your Sacred “No”: Lilith’s power was in her refusal. Where in your life are you saying “yes” when your soul is screaming “no”? Practice setting one small, sovereign boundary.
3. Journal Your Shadow: Use these prompts for the transits:
   • For Nov 18 (Sun/Lilith): “What part of me have I been hiding to make others comfortable?” “What makes me feel ‘too much,’ and what power lies there?”
   • For Nov 21 (Mercury/Lilith): “What is the one truth I am afraid to say out loud?” “What secret am I ready to release?”

Crystal Allies for Lilith Work

• Golden Astrophyllite: This is the premier stone for Lilith work. We carry the rarer Golden Astrophyllite, which is a powerful “Shadow Illuminator”. Its radiant, golden starbursts shine a light of pure, unwavering truth into your deepest self, helping you see your full, untamed nature (Lilith) with clarity and courage.
• Labradorite: This is your psychic shield. As you do this deep work, Labradorite protects your aura from outside interference and enhances your own intuition, allowing you to “see in the dark” and trust the messages you receive.
• Smoky Quartz: This is your spiritual alchemist. As Lilith’s energy brings up old, heavy, or repressed emotions, Smoky Quartz safely grounds and transmutes that energy, pulling it out of your system and neutralising it in the earth. It is the stone of safe release.

This November, you are not just meeting your shadow. You are being asked to integrate it, to reclaim its power, and to give it a voice. It may be uncomfortable, but it is the path to becoming truly, undeniably whole.